One of the first glimmers of hope and light that cracked through this porn/masturbation was the idea that I might have a very longstanding problem connected to "trapped emotions". This was the beginning of a long and winding journey--the way I react to negative emotions, the way I see myself and the way I see God.Trapped emotions do go back to the start of my problem.
So I don't want to squash and deny my emotions.
But how do I process them in a healthy way?
Experimenting means I sometimes end up spending too much time wallowing in my pain.
Embracing the sadness and pain has a ring of truth and reality that seems to be "Good News" even to the Church itself. But there's gotta be a time to move on.
Moving on, isn't that just squashing my emotions again?Attitude!
That's a helpful way to look at it. I can watch and change my attitude, while learn my way through these messy confusing emotions.
Check and adjust your attitude. Conquer and rule your attitude, without squashing or denying those emotions. Yes there is sadness and pain. Yes it's a part of you. But you are in charge and your attitude decides how much space to give to your feelings and when to listen to them and when to say, "okay, time to look ahead".
Thanks to Russ from Attitudes of Sexual Integrity for so much help and support in this process.
1 comment:
Yes Healed! Thoughts are the little stuff that foats in out emotions. Attitudes are the currents that drive those emotions and thoughts. I had to ask What was I driven by? My Rivers of emotion where they in my control?
Yes I had to make choices turn the tides! First by identifiying them. Ever say to your self "why do I do that? why am I sutcha jerk somtimes?" The 80-20 rule 20% of life is what happens 80% is how your react to that 20%
Like a resent emailer to my show said “why are we here on earth, why were we born". The answer was…. “to experience pain, and to learn from it”. That everything is about learning from pain. Chose an attidude of wallowing or strikeing out in anger or Learn by asking questions. Why do I do what I do?
80 - 20 Rule. Reactions are choices in the long run.
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